18 months of dating going nowhere
At the time, I decided to put it down to only being two months in, but my gut knew better.(Damn guts – they’re almost always right.) Even at the two-month mark, I felt as though we should have been a little further along. Unbeknownst to me, MDM was what Marni calls a ‘Mr Quality Casual’.You have lots in common, but no sex life If you’re missing this one important ingredient in your relationship, it’s likely there will be no next level.“You don’t need another friend or a future roommate,” says Levine.
You see, even though things were fairly hunky dory with MDM, I could feel the relationship not progressing.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
Anyway, MDM (Mr Disappearing Man) and I had something really good going – or so I thought. We were the same age and from a similar background, had loads in common, got along famously, had great chemistry and seemed to want the same things in life. While, naturally, we didn’t always see eye-to-eye, we never had one argument. I have my theories as to why he vanished so fast it made my head spin (in more ways than one), but this isn’t about him. How am I ever going to feel happy and safe in a relationship when the guy could shock me to my core at any minute?
How not to let ‘ghosting’ turn into ‘trust issues’ Once I came to terms with the fact that I might never see or hear from him ever again (which I was disappointed but not devastated by), I was faced with a new dilemma: How the hell am I supposed to get back out there when, apparently, dating someone for two months and having everything going for you as a couple means absolutely nothing – not even a friendship or, at the very least, a goodbye?